Breaking with Tradition

By nature, I am a highly contradictory person. I contradict myself in the things that I say and do, my likes and dislikes…or maybe you could just call me eclectic. However, I was thinking to myself about how much I liked finding out about where bridal traditions and customs stemmed from, and I thought myself to be quite a traditional person. The reality is…I’m really not traditional in that sense. My fiance and I mutually agreed to get married rather than a surprise proposal, we are planning a lot of it together as a couple, and he has seen me in the dress. No doubt many more traditions will be broken along the way, but these are a few of my favourites:

Bridesmaids dresses: In a similar style to the bride’s, but in a different colour to confuse evil spirits from acting upon the bride

Wedding cake: Originally wheat from the bouquet made into a cake and broken over the bride’s head to encourage fertility

Tying wedding shoes to the back of the car: Brides used to be stuck symbolically with a shoe by the groom as a display of his authority in the marriage!

Buttonholes: From when men used to wear a lady’s colours as a symbol of their devotion

Carrying the bride over the threshold: To protect the bride from evil spirits that she would step up if she walked into the house

Honeymoon: Translates in Irish as ‘month of honey’ –  after the wedding husband and wife would spend a month together drinking honeyed wine or mead, away from where their families could try and separate them.

As my fiance is Welsh, I understand that on the morning of the wedding, the groom breaks into the bride’s house to capture her for the wedding. She should be disguised as an old women for luck. Once found, they head to church, but the bride is kidnapped AGAIN by her father. Once the groom retrieves her for the second time, they can finally head to church.

Needless to say that I don’t think I will be bothering with that on my day!




Hello there,

This is a brand-new wedding blog, designed as a place to provide advice, inspiration and ideas for your wedding (as well as an excuse to look at pretty pictures when you should be doing something much more constructive).

I myself am planning my wedding for next spring and have found myself developing a slightly worrying obsession with wedding blogs, and can happy wile away many hours drooling over beautiful pictures of English-country garden inspired wedding shoots, dreaming of  handmade bunting and making endless lists and notes of things that have inspired me.


Something that has caught my attention are the smaller, more intimate weddings. It provides so much more scope for originality, attention to detail, and from the wedding reports I have read, lends itself to a more relaxed and personal day. Therefore, this blog is dedicated to the smaller wedding, however, if you are planning a larger wedding I’m sure you will still find plenty of inspiration here.

So please, do read, comment and get involved. I would love to feature some real-life weddings, simple and elegant, rustic, beautiful, individual, quirky…I’d love to hear about all of them! So please do get in touch (contact details are on the Real Weddings page), and without further ado I shall leave you to explore my small wedding wonderland.